#marriage #relationship #differences
My husband and I, we are two totally different human beings, besides the obvious (him being Asian and myself an African). I love my chicken feet from yumcha and he loves his durian.
He can’t understand why I eat chicken feet and I can’t even comprehended how he can eat durian because just the smell is enough to take me to heaven, but just look at him enjoy his favourite durian. How can I fight with that?
What’s my point? Being different in relationships and marriages is a beautiful thing and should be celebrated after all love is patient and kind. Why then would we even think of changing one another to suit our different tastes?
The respectable thing we do is to clean our mouths and get on with the kissing business. Unless of course someone is in the teasing mood, then interesting things begin to happen. I have no problem with him eating durian inside the house but many a times I find him eating it outside. Not because I am scary, or I will scream at him or I will lose it, it’s just him respecting me which is truly humbling. Nothing too hard, no need for sulking, pouting, put downs and long faces.
Many relationships are in trouble today because at some point someone wants to change the other. People need to get this, no one can change another human being and it’s by the Grace of God that someone will change. Forcing people to change leads to communication breakdowns, frustrations, anger, irritation, exasperation and so much more which is very unnecessary.
Tinashe Angeline La